بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيم
Do not take things personal but learn to understand the messages behind them.
This post doesn’t aim to do the things listed below :
– Judging individuals
– Taking shots at certain individuals
– Belittling individuals
– Not understanding people are at different levels and stages
– Excluding people from the Mercy and Forgiveness of Allah, The Most Merciful
– Trying to show that we are better than others
– Make people think that they are useless and will never attain or achieve things in their lives / Make people give up
– Giving Verdicts and Fatawas
We, House of Jilbab, have tried to spread modesty in the best way that we could. We are not perfect and are in need of the Mercy of Allah like everyone else, if not even more, but it shouldn’t stop us from spreading the truth, it might be a cause to be forgiven and shown mercy by The Most Merciful.
Many times, we have witnessed people taking things personal and feeling judged or targeted. But in a society where people tend to hide or distort the true meanings of things, we don’t want to be this way, and it might feel strange or a bit upsetting to hear the truth how it is and not like our desires / passions would have liked.
The Niqab is a prime example of this, how many people feel uncomfortable when the subject is brought forward. As the prayer, the zakah, the fasting of Ramadan, the hajj, the slaughter— the Niqab has its conditions, and the Niqab is not something new in our religion. So, when we remind people of the conditions of the Niqab : not showing the forehead, the eyebrows and the nose ; it is done with the aim of preserving the true meaning of what has been called a Niqab.
We are not talking about it being compulsory or not, but are talking about the Niqab itself, its definition and its conditions, the scholars of Islam have longtime defined what it is and how it should be worn.
So, when a topic about the religion is highlighted, we shouldn’t try to change the focus of the discussion or try to influence people with misconceptions or personal opinions. Our religious levels, our shortcomings and our thinking shouldn’t try to change things which are already established in Our Religion.
Our attitudes towards the truth should be like the Sahaba, who never rejected or questioned the truth when it was presented to them, it doesn’t mean that you will practice it straight away or will be forced to do it ; it means you should hear and acknowledge, ready to work your way towards it and ask forgiveness for your shortcomings.
The Messenger has believed in what was revealed to him from his Lord, and [so have] the believers. All of them have believed in Allah and His angels and His books and His messengers, [saying], “We make no distinction between any of His messengers.” And they say, “We hear and we obey. [We seek] Your forgiveness, our Lord, and to You is the [final] destination.”
Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity. It will have [the consequence of] what [good] it has gained, and it will bear [the consequence of] what [evil] it has earned. “Our Lord, do not impose blame upon us if we have forgotten or erred. Our Lord, and lay not upon us a burden like that which You laid upon those before us. Our Lord, and burden us not with that which we have no ability to bear. And pardon us; and forgive us; and have mercy upon us. You are our protector, so give us victory over the disbelieving people.” — Surah Al Baqarah, Verses 285, 286
As we know acts of worship have conditions, details about them have been well elaborated by the past Scholars and those who follow them today. Something might be compulsory or not, but its conditions and pillars will still remain the same, and its religious definition can’t be changed by the beliefs you hold to be true or your desires. For example, a sister who doesn’t think the Niqab is compulsory and wears a half Niqab, she has dressed in a more modest way in accordance to what she sees as compulsory, but she’s still not wearing a Niqab. Describing or showing it as if it was a Niqab will mislead people.
It’s tiring to always have to look like the « haram police », harsh and rude individuals, when we are trying to spread beneficial knowledge and sayings from the past and present scholars. Would you have reacted this way if it was heard from them directly ?
Last point, when advising people, try to be — gentle, patient, and soft — and when being advised don’t take everything as an attack making drama out of it.
In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy. Allaah [The Exalted] said:
وَٱلۡعَصۡرِ إِنَّ ٱلۡإِنسَـٰنَ لَفِى خُسۡرٍ إِلَّا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ وَعَمِلُواْ ٱلصَّـٰلِحَـٰتِ وَتَوَاصَوۡاْ بِٱلۡحَقِّ وَتَوَاصَوۡاْ بِٱلصَّبۡرِ
By Al-‘Asr (the time).
Verily! Mankind is in loss; except those who believe (in Islamic Monotheism) and do righteous good deeds, enjoin one another to the truth and enjoin one another to patience.
May Allah guide us all and forgive us our sins.
Read our article about the Correct way to wear a Niqab